Stress less

What is stress?
stress
1. pressure or tension exerted on a material object
2. a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.
Stress is something that affects everyone at some point, whether it be at work, home, because of bills, friends, etc. Whatever the reason may be, it happens to us all. The important thing is to know how to handle it. Learning how to cope with stress in our everyday lives is a major key to maintaining a peaceful state of mind. Here are a few tips to help..
  9 times out of 10 we have unintentionally talked ourselves into a bad mood, maybe you woke up on the wrong side of the bed, maybe you didn’t sleep well and woke up with a crick in your neck or just simply woke up in a bad mood. This brings me to the first of 3 tips..
1. POSITIVE SELF TALK
Try turning all those negative thoughts and affirmations into positives.
Turn..
“Why do I always mess everything up.” into “I’m human, we all make mistakes. I can fix it.”
“I can’t do this.” into “I’ll do the best I can. I’ve got this.”
“Everything is going wrong.” into “I can handle this if I take one step at a time.”
These simple little phrases don’t seem like much but when you remind yourself often, they can shift your mindset into a different direction. If you really want to make it work, you should practice positive self-talk every single day, whether it be in the car, at work, before you go to sleep, when you wake up, and absolutely when you notice your thoughts are going in a negative direction.
2.  TECHNIQUES
  • count to 10 before you speak or act.
  • try breaking down the big problems into smaller parts. From there you can take one step at a time, instead of trying to tackle everything at once which could make you feel overwhelmed and increase the tension.
  • take a few slow, deep breaths until you feel your body un-clench a little bit.
  • walk away from the situation for a while, wait until you’re calm, then find solution to the situation with a clear head.

3. FIND A HEALTHY OUTLET

There are many different coping mechanisms to choose from, it’s time to find a healthy way to blow off some steam! Here are a few suggestions..

  1. ART! you can draw, paint, do arts and crafts.
  2. MUSIC! turn on your favorite song and sing and dance your frustrations away!
  3. Hang out with some friends, good genuine company is always helpful in stressful situations, it gives you a chance to breathe and relax.
  4. GET ACTIVE! You could go on a walk, jog, or maybe do some yoga, you’ll be too busy sweating and focusing on the task at hand that the frustrations will soon seem to evaporate and you can go back later and find a solution to the situation.

These are a few things that I find to be helpful in stressful situations, but ultimately you are the judge of what’s best for you, your body, your mind, and your emotional stability. Take it one step at a time and don’t expect super fantastic results after a day, it could take some time, just remember to be there for yourself, listen to your body and mind. No one knows what’s best for you except you, so listen to what your body is telling you, you’ll be surprised at how well you know yourself if you just take the time to pay attention.

Until next time,

Zo

I encourage you..

I encourage you to embrace transformation, evaluate the underlying issues in your life, and break down the routines that aren’t contributing to positivity, optimism, and your overall well-being. It’s YOUR life, so naturally, your future is up to YOU.

As human beings we tend to go through the motions, some go through them at a faster pace and some humans are lucky enough to skip over some of the more negative feelings, not because they don’t feel like feeling that way, but  because they haven’t been exposed to such situations that would allow those negative feelings to arise.

In life you will have triumphs, failures, and moments you might not be able to categorize. This is where being mindful of ourselves and others comes in. If you can even find 10 things to be thankful for that day you’re doing well.

I encourage you to go out and get a journal, take about 20 minutes each day to simply sit still and ground yourself, focus on your breathing and jot down 10 things you are thankful for, if you can’t think of 10 right off the bat get simple with it, focus on your senses, focus on the present moment.

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Once you have finished this list, reflect, and remind yourself that you are a human being worthy of all good things. Just because you might be facing some negative situations or issues, that doesn’t make you any less worthy.

Until next time,

Zo

I am..

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This was written beautifully by @sjanaelise on Instagram (#writtenbysjana). I found this piece to be especially inspirational. It sort of brings you back to “the basics”, showing you that in a world full of labels and underlying competition, you have a ton to be thankful for, each minute of everyday if you allow yourself to see it. Very inspiring work.

Until next time,

Zo

Lately

Lately I’ve been trying to improve myself as a human being. I’ve been trying to improve how I react to things, how I acknowledge my own feelings along with those around me, and how I deal with my emotions. I’ve come to the realization that this process, this project, this journey, is never ending.

The moment you think you’ve achieved the state of enlightenment completely is often the point in which you start giving up and going back to your old self. You think “oh hey! I’ve reached the limit!” when in reality that could just be the very start. This is a never ending process in which you will try and fail, and try and fail, again and again and so on and so fourth.

I recall my junior summer being the point in which my perspective shifted. I also recall graduating senior year and still feeling that shift. However, after a year of being out of school I noticed myself going back to my old self, which is why I’m here on year 2 – 3 of being graduated and I’m FINALLY starting to shift back to my centered and grounded self. Sometimes it takes longer, sometimes it’s really easy, and sometimes you just get so lost in the day to day frustrations that it could take years and years to get back to your mindful self.

The important thing is to maintain that compassion for yourself. Try to be there for yourself, don’t think badly of yourself because you feel a certain way. Instead, try to open yourself up and understand why you’re feeling this way and ask yourself how you can improve this so you won’t feel this way again. It’s super hard to do this in the moment, but that’s why you should always practice being mindful not only for others, but for yourself as well.

Until next time,

Zo

Mindful actions

I’ve come to realize a lot of things since entering “the real world”, thinking back I always knew some of those things, they just weren’t very clear, and one of those things is that you have absolutely no control of how people interpret your words.

In a world where you can barely say a single sentence without offending someone, the one thing you have control over is your choice of words. It seems like in the world surrounding us the power that comes along with words has ceased to diminish. Now there are always going to be those frustrating moments when someone will pick and pick and pick at you and no matter what you say it doesn’t matter because they’re simply stuck, this says a lot about them, but the way you react says a lot about you as well.

This is where you have the choice to make, will you retaliate and stoop to their level, or will you allow their words to bounce right off of you, especially since most of these words are said purely out of anger and issues beneath the surface.

I, personally, am practicing not retaliating at all. It’s easy to let that anger and frustration drive you toward revenge, but it takes a wise and patient human to learn to be mindful of what and who you shift your energy towards.

Being mindful is a constant progress, you never really get to the ‘finish line’, because there’s not one. While practicing being mindful you will become fully aware of what’s going on not only with yourself but with what is going on around you as well, and learn to respond to things in a peaceful manner, without agitation.

Don’t feel discouraged if you still lose your temper, this is, after all, a life long journey so don’t beat yourself up over a few tantrums, we all have our bad days and we all have those days that seem hopeless, forgive yourself, be there for yourself, and treat yourself with the kindness you wish to receive.

People say “you are your own worst enemy” and although that’s true, why couldn’t you be your greatest friend too?

Until next time,

Zo